Suck It Up, Buttercup

– Posted in: Blogging, Elfie, Grown-up Friends, Me Time, Memories, Nevada, Newt, Parenting, Reno, Tammy Thinks, Travel
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You know that phenomenon where you put off calling a friend or writing an email because it's going to require carving out a chunk of time that you won't have until you're, I don't know, 90 (which is probably still wrong because my 90-year-old aunt is still pretty frickin' busy)? Or like how you'd really like to clean the inside [...]

The Totally Narcissistic Post About What I’ve Been Doing So I Can Get it All Out of My Head

– Posted in: Blogging, Blogging Betties Podcast, Bright Side of Life, Food, Grown-up Friends, Me Time, Tammy Thinks, Travel
Listen to Your Mother Sacramento -- Tammy Soong and Jeanne Alongi

So as you may have noticed, I haven't been writing much lately. This isn't due to lack of trying. It's mainly due to being hella busy. Add that to my somewhat baseline status of feeling hella crappy, and, well, end of story. As most of you know, I started the Blogging Betties Podcast with my [...]

The Best Mother’s Day Present? It’s Over.

– Posted in: Family, Grief, Grown-up Friends, Guilt, Holidays, Logan's Story, Momless, Personal Insanity, Stuff I Probably Shouldn't be Thinkin', Tammy Thinks, Worst Mom Randomness
mom with son and daughter at brunch on Mother's Day

So Mother's Day is over, and all I can say is, thank the gods. I know most moms look forward to Mother's Day. Probably because they're normal and well-adjusted people who are totally chill about spending a nice Sunday with family, getting an over-priced piece of jewelry designed by Jane Seymour, and maybe going out [...]

Realizing Your Grass Looks Greener from Someone Else’s Side

– Posted in: Blogging, Complaining, Crazy Tammy, First World Problems, Grown-up Friends, Logan's Story, Momless, Personal Insanity, Tammy Thinks, Worrying, Worst Mom Randomness, Writing
white fence -- grass is always greener on the other side

The other night, while I was up with insomnia, I started making a "You Suck" list. It's just one of many lists that go through my head when my other non-sleeping choices are to: Make a list from the other 100 lists regarding everything from "Brilliant blog posts that come to me...at 2 a.m." to [...]

Guilt 101, Brought to You by the 8-year-old

– Posted in: Elfie, Grown-up Friends, Guilt, Mouths of Babes, Personal Insanity, The Kids are Killing Me, Worst Mom Randomness
Elfie's Guilty-the-Mommy Note

So last night, my husband, Tenzin, and I went out to dinner. Grown-up dinner with friends. And a play. We basically have no social life, so this was a big deal for us. For better or worse (most likely worse -- we'll see in a few years when I get a call from their therapists), [...]

Be Like Water. . . And Just Grow Up Already

– Posted in: Getting Older, Growing Up, Grown-up Friends, Personal Insanity, Sappy Tammy, Time

Lately I've been thinking about how much I've changed over the last twenty years. For whatever reason, little reminders keep popping up to challenge my illusion that I'm still basically the same person. I don't think anyone likes to look back to their 20's and remember that very strong feeling of believing they'd never turn [...]

One More Best Day

– Posted in: Cancer Sucks, Chronic Pain, Crazy Tammy, Grief, Grown-up Friends, Mom dying, Personal Insanity, Sappy Tammy

So for the past two days, you could say I've been a bit weepy.Okay, that's actually not even close to accurate. "Weepy" implies some moments of tearing up. Maybe there's a tissue involved, but usually you can get away with a finger wipe. What I'm experiencing is more. . . sobbing. Yes, hysterical sobbing. That's [...]

Writing a Blank

– Posted in: Blogging, Chronic Pain, Family, Forgetting, Growing Up, Grown-up Friends, Mawage, Personal Insanity, Time, Working for Pay, Writing

I'm having one of my typically partly sunny days.On the one hand, it's kind of been like my birthday. The Empress, over at Good Day Regular People, featured me in her "Get To Know Thursdays." I don't want to get all hyperbolical on everybody, but you know how they honor people at awards shows with [...]